And I am built like a mother and a total machine
The A/C in my Barbie dream apartment was out for a whole week, I'd been sweating unintentionally doing mundane tasks. I had the sliding doors and windows open and three fans running. The lowest it dropped to was 76 degrees and I typically set it for 72 so I can sleep with my band tee quilt draped over me, it's just the right weight. Sometimes I appreciate discomfort, it makes me think and act differently. Ideas born of hot feet and how the breeze feels on your shoulders at golden hour. Insect sounds at 2am. Bubble bursted. Routine breached.
I've been thinking lately about the difference between wanting to be kissed and wanting to kiss someone. Is it the difference between giving and taking? Passion and validation? I don't even know if I can experience ANY kind of attraction to someone if it isn't coming at me first. Well, "coming at me" seems aggressive. I experience attraction only reciprocally? But it's more than that, right? It's DNA in looks and likes and quirks of conversation.
Sometimes, when you tell people you have a crush, they ask you what you’re going to DO about it. Isn’t being IN A CRUSH just a desirable state in and of itself? What’s there to DO about it?
Someone from my past reached out recently. I admit I liked the attention, the compliments. But it also nearly sent me into spirals about how I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS ANYMORE. He said he had a huge crush on me in high school and I always looked away. Well, yes. That tracks. I had no crushes in high school. But I do remember who was cute and who was not. He was cute. It's just like the above mentioned rhetoric - what's there to do about it? Can't we just soak in the soup of our crush feelings, alone?
Being beyond the era of LiveJournal, I even have anxiety about writing this because I am always tacking my feelings up on the wall of the Internet before I've even sorted through them. Such is my nature.
I also reached out to someone from MY past. I like the banter. And AND, he's in an MFA program for Creative Writing. Tell me everything. Tell me anything.
I AM open to more friendships and show buddies and hiking pals and chatting about reading and writing and what you built and what you had for dinner. I do want to know what you thought of me in High School. What you thought of me 15 years ago. I'll tell you what I think of you now, if you ask. I'll tell you what it was like then, if you ask. One of my friends said recently, "she documents everything" - I do. Tell me the date and I'll tell you what I was thinking.
What I don't want is to be constantly dodging the weight of your expectations. Abandon your narrative. Don't make me give the TED talk. I have to be honest from the jump this time, next time, any time.